About us
A group for thoughtful people navigating modern decision-making in a world full of noise, tools, systems, and overwhelm.
Led by Emily Pabst, ChoiceTech Consultant and Coach and founder of Remake The Rules, these gatherings explore how we make decisions—big and small—when we’re inundated with information, options, algorithms, and outdated advice.
This group is a space to slow down, think more clearly, and explore better ways of navigating modern life—without optimization culture, hustle rhetoric, or performative self-improvement.This group is for you if you’re:
- Tired of burnout cycles, app fatigue, or constant decision overwhelm
- Stuck between too many options and not enough movement
- Doing everything “right” on paper, but still feeling off
- Curious about decision-making, technology design, or systemic pressure
- Interested in understanding why things feel hard before trying to fix them
What We Explore Together
Meetups and discussions may touch on topics like:
- Decision fatigue & choice overload
- ChoiceTech (how apps, platforms, and tools shape decisions)
- App dysfunction and digital overwhelm
- Information overload in work, dating, and daily life
- Hybrid human-tech decision systems
- Choice inflation and disappearing defaults
- Making decisions with more confidence without chasing “perfect” outcomes
Events range from relaxed social gatherings to lightly structured discussions to educational lectures and workshops. Some events are monthly; others are occasional or quarterly.
The common thread: learning how to remake our decision-making for the world we’re actually living in.
If you’re looking for a thoughtful, human-centered community that takes modern complexity seriously—this space is for you.
Learn more about the broader work behind this group at remaketherules.com.
Featured event
The Rise of Choicetech | Workshop | Love in the Time of Dating Apps
Dating apps don’t just change who we meet, they change how we decide.
This session is part of Love in the Time of Dating Apps, a multi-part series exploring modern dating through the lens of decision-making in the Information Age. Each session stands on its own, but together they offer a deeper framework for understanding why choosing can feel so draining, confusing, or effortful today.
Get your own ticket.
Sliding scale pricing $5-$35. Reserve your spot today.
About This Workshop
As uncertainty has become a defining condition of modern life, we’ve increasingly turned to technology to help us manage both information and choice. Choicetech refers to tools and systems designed to structure decision-making under conditions of complexity and uncertainty, by filtering, ranking, pacing, and framing information so choices feel more manageable.
This session explores the rise of choicetech as both a response to and a driver of the Information Age. Using dating apps as a familiar, concrete example, we’ll look at how these systems shape what we see, what we ignore, what feels meaningful, and how quickly we’re pushed to decide. Rather than framing dating apps as “good” or “bad,” the focus is on understanding how choicetech influences perception, evaluation, and timing.
This is an educational, interactive conversation about the systems we’re dating inside and what changes when we can finally see them more clearly.
Who This Is For
- People currently using dating apps
- People thinking about using online dating
- Anyone curious about how technology shapes everyday decision-making
This event is intentionally dating-goal, orientation, and identity agnostic. The focus is on how decisions are shaped, not what you should want or aim for.
What to Expect
- A grounded, nerdy, and accessible presentation
- Interactive moments to reflect privately on your own experience
- A realistic but ultimately hopeful perspective
Tickets available on Remake The Rules, $5-$35.
About the Facilitator
This session is led by Emily Pabst, Choicetech Consultant and Coach and founder of Remake The Rules. Emily’s work focuses on helping people understand and actively shape how modern systems and technologies influence decision-making across dating, leading, and everyday life.
Upcoming events
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Navigating the Noise: A Happy Hour for Hiring Professionals
BarFly at the Alamo, 4255 W Colfax, Denver, CO, USA gathering for people working inside one of the most pressured and contradictory decision environments in modern work.
Hiring today isn’t just about finding “the right candidate.” It’s about navigating applicant tracking systems, job platforms, internal approvals, DEI goals, legal constraints, timelines, competing priorities, unclear roles, mismatched expectations, and a constant sense that the stakes are high and the margin for error is low.
This in-person Denver meetup is for people involved in hiring decisions: recruiters, hiring managers, HR professionals, founders, team leads, and operators. Folks who have ever thought:
“Why does this feel so broken?”
“Why is this harder than it needs to be?”
“Why do none of the tools seem to actually work?”Whether you’re hiring occasionally or constantly, solo or inside a large organization, you’re invited to gather with others who understand what it’s like to make people decisions inside systems that often work against good judgment.
Why This Space Exists
Hiring has become a dense decision environment shaped by fragmented tools, conflicting incentives, and outdated assumptions about work, candidates, and success.
This meetup creates space to talk honestly about what hiring feels like from the inside, without slipping into blame, buzzwords, or “best practices” that ignore reality.
The goal isn’t to fix hiring in one night. It’s to recognize patterns, share lived experience, and realize you’re not the only one navigating these tensions.What to Expect:
A relaxed, human-centered, lightly structured evening:- Casual arrivals and warm conversation
- A short welcome on decision-making inside modern hiring systems
- Introductions with a guided prompt, such as:
- What hiring decision currently feels hardest to get right?
- Where does your process create friction or uncertainty?
- What tool or rule most gets in the way of good judgment?
- Open time for connecting and comparing experiences
Hosted by Remake The Rules, a Colorado-based practice focused on modern decision-making, systems, and the human impact of technology-heavy work environments.
6 attendees
Meet People Who Are Also Figuring It Out
BarFly at the Alamo, 4255 W Colfax, Denver, CO, USA relaxed gathering for people navigating modern life, dating, careers, creativity, decision-making, or whatever feels oddly unfinished right now.
This is a low-pressure social event for curious, thoughtful people who are trying to make sense of things and who enjoy a mix of humor, reflection, and “what even is going on anymore.”
Whether you’re new to Denver, new to decision confusion, or just tired of being smart and stuck at the same time, you’re welcome here.
What to expect:
If you're running late, don't worry, you're still welcome to join.
6:00 PM – Arrive, say hi, sign in, grab a name tag (with the decision you’ve been laboring over lately), and get a drink or snack from the bar.
6:15ish PM – Group introductions. We’ll go one-by-one, sharing who we are and what we’re currently trying to figure out.
After intros – Mingle, chat, and brainstorm with the people—and the questions—you resonated with most.
This is an in-person, recurring gathering designed to be something you can come back to as life evolves.Hosted by Remake The Rules, a Denver-based practice focused on modern decision-making and navigating an information-saturated world.
24 attendees
Creatives Coworking
The Table Public House, 2190 S. Platte River Drive ,, Denver, CO, USA relaxed, inclusive coworking afternoon for people doing creative, independent, or self-directed work
Creatives Coworking is an in-person Denver meetup designed for writers, designers, strategists, artists, remote workers, entrepreneurs, and anyone whose work requires focus, creativity, or open-ended thinking. You don’t have to identify as a “creative” in the traditional sense—if your work involves building, making, problem-solving, or thinking things through, you belong here.
This is not a productivity sprint or a silent grind. It’s structured enough to support focus, and flexible enough to meet people where they are.What to Expect
1:00–1:30 PM — Arrival + intros
Arrive, grab a drink, settle in, and say hello. We’ll do brief introductions, sharing what you’re working on today and what you hope to accomplish during the session.
1:30–3:00 PM — Coworking focus block
We’ll work independently alongside one another for about 90 minutes. Bring whatever you’re working on: writing, planning, designing, admin, deep thinking, or creative experimentation.
After 3:00 PM — Optional wrap-up
Once the focus block ends, you’re welcome to keep working, take a break, or regroup to chat, connect, and socialize with others in the room.A big thank-you to The Table Public House for hosting us; please support them with a purchase during the event.
Also hosted by Emily Pabst of Remake The Rules, a Denver-based practice focused on modern decision-making and building human-centered spaces for navigating complexity.
And hosted by Jordan Devine, and advanced certified life coach & founder of Devine Empowerment Coaching.
5 attendeesThe Rise of Choicetech | Workshop | Love in the Time of Dating Apps
Bob Ragland Branch Library, 1900 35th Street, Suite A, 80216, Denver, CO, USDating apps don’t just change who we meet, they change how we decide.
This session is part of Love in the Time of Dating Apps, a multi-part series exploring modern dating through the lens of decision-making in the Information Age. Each session stands on its own, but together they offer a deeper framework for understanding why choosing can feel so draining, confusing, or effortful today.
Get your own ticket.
Sliding scale pricing $5-$35. Reserve your spot today.About This Workshop
As uncertainty has become a defining condition of modern life, we’ve increasingly turned to technology to help us manage both information and choice. Choicetech refers to tools and systems designed to structure decision-making under conditions of complexity and uncertainty, by filtering, ranking, pacing, and framing information so choices feel more manageable.This session explores the rise of choicetech as both a response to and a driver of the Information Age. Using dating apps as a familiar, concrete example, we’ll look at how these systems shape what we see, what we ignore, what feels meaningful, and how quickly we’re pushed to decide. Rather than framing dating apps as “good” or “bad,” the focus is on understanding how choicetech influences perception, evaluation, and timing.
This is an educational, interactive conversation about the systems we’re dating inside and what changes when we can finally see them more clearly.
Who This Is For
- People currently using dating apps
- People thinking about using online dating
- Anyone curious about how technology shapes everyday decision-making
This event is intentionally dating-goal, orientation, and identity agnostic. The focus is on how decisions are shaped, not what you should want or aim for.
What to Expect
- A grounded, nerdy, and accessible presentation
- Interactive moments to reflect privately on your own experience
- A realistic but ultimately hopeful perspective
Tickets available on Remake The Rules, $5-$35.
About the Facilitator
This session is led by Emily Pabst, Choicetech Consultant and Coach and founder of Remake The Rules. Emily’s work focuses on helping people understand and actively shape how modern systems and technologies influence decision-making across dating, leading, and everyday life.4 attendees
Past events
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