About us
-Concept for 5 Practice Dates is on meetup group page (see below)
-Details for Couples & Singles Mixer & 5 Practice Dates is on meetup event page
Free/$49.00 Straight Mixer for couples and singles event
https://www.meetup.com/matchmaking-mixer/events/314344770/?eventOrigin=home_next_event_you_are_hosting
Free/$49.00 Gay Mixer for couples and singles event
https://www.meetup.com/matchmaking-mixer/events/314350760/?eventOrigin=home_next_event_you_are_hosting
Free/$49.00 Lesbian Mixer for couples and singles event
https://www.meetup.com/matchmaking-mixer/events/314351030/?eventOrigin=group_upcoming_events
Link to Practice Dating: A Live Relationship Skills Workshop.
https://www.meetup.com/matchmaking-mixer/events/314827403/?eventOrigin=group_events_list
Safety Disclaimer
All events take place in public spaces such as cafés, food courts, malls, and other well-trafficked locations to ensure a safe and comfortable experience for everyone.
Concept
" The wrong person is someone who stonewalls, always blames you, or blanks out—saying things like “it’s not my responsibility,” “it was easier with my ex,” or “why are you being so difficult.” They are refusing the work of love.
The solution is an attitude of indulgence, curiosity, patience and calm consideration of the flaws that unite us all.
There is no right person; there is a good enough person.
Compatibility is not a precondition of love.
Compatibility is the fruit of love.
In romantic culture, if you like a blue curtain and they like a green curtain, they tell you to get out.
The idea that you should find a perfect person who clicks immediately is a destructive idea.
A good enough person is someone who will engage with the business of working towards compatibility. They won't assume you are wrong because there are problems. They know how to repair a crisis, listen, be curious, and be patient. "
Survival - date 1 concept
In survival mode, dating feels like competition or war. It’s about winning and losing. Rejection hurts, leaving traumas and scars. You gather resources and weapons to “win.”
These weapons include masks, strategies, games, and curated personalities—defense mechanisms.
Money, resources, looks, and personality may get you a foot in the door, but insecurity and a lack of inner foundation will pull you back.
Advancement:
You may fall into victim–abuser–rescuer dynamics. You put others on a pedestal or are placed on one. There are unhealthy attachment styles. When real, healthy love appears, you enter fight-or-flight. At the first sign of conflict you can’t resolve, you run away or shift responsibility onto others. You seek love and respect from everyone.
Security - date 2 concept
In security mode, you have your own “kingdom.” You seek a partner—like a prince or princess from another kingdom—to expand your influence and strengthen your position.
You look for approval from family and community, external validation, and a strong sense of justification beliefs.
Yet there is often a familiar pattern: not being loved properly, repeated again and again.
Your “arsenal” includes advantages—money, status, appearance, personality, and opportunity.
Advancement:
You find someone of similar status, creating a sense of comfort and stability. The relationship may feel ideal, but love becomes conditional. Old patterns of unhealthy love can repeat. You seek love and respect from your community your people.
Thriving - date 3 concept
In thriving mode, you become “nobody” in dating—in the best sense. You are authentic and internally aligned.
Instead of defending your ego or hiding mistakes, you take responsibility for your actions. You face reality honestly, and that honesty becomes powerful.
You feel gratitude and love more easily.
There is sincerity, a willingness to learn, and the courage to take risks for growth. You act with intention and commit to your heart’s desires.
Advancement:
You recognize patterns and break unconscious cycles. You develop genuine love and respect for yourself. Love and respect from others is not needed.
Joy - date 4 concept
Joy in love comes from humility and humor—the recognition that none of us fully understands anything.
We are, in a way, two imperfect people—two “lovable idiots”—helping each other find the way.
This is the spirit needed for love: generosity, mutual forgiveness, and lightness.
With this comes clarity about your own shadow and ego, the ability to embrace and manage them, and the capacity to understand others more deeply.
Advancement: gratitude, love and respect flow—both for yourself and for another.
The difference between joy and happiness is depth and origin. Joy comes from overcoming something difficult—it’s deeper, more meaningful, and often longer-lasting. It’s what you feel after growth, struggle, or transformation, and I desire all to experience that kind of joy at this event. Happiness, on the other hand, is temporary and external—simple pleasures like a good meal or getting attention from someone attractive.
I intend to bring together people who are “good enough” for each other—connections that feel natural, aligned, and energetically complementary. This event is a space to explore both yourself and the person you’re meeting, without the usual noise.
Some of you are here for fun, adventure, and unpredictability. Others are here for something steady, certain, and long-term. Both are welcome. What matters is honesty about what you want and respect for what others want.
At the core, most people are looking for a genuine connection—someone present, emotionally grounded, and real—whether that leads to something light or something lasting.
This event is about showing up as you are, with openness and self-awareness. Not perfection—just presence, accountability, and a willingness to engage beyond surface-level expectations.
There’s no fee to attend, so the value comes from how you show up. Bring curiosity instead of judgment. Leave comparison and assumptions at the door—connection happens fastest when people feel seen, not evaluated.
This event will move forward when the right mix of people are ready to participate with intention. If not, it will be postponed. I care more about the quality of the experience than forcing it to happen.
If it’s meant to come together, it will. I’ll reach out about a week before the event with details.
The Five Dating Tasks
• Do You See Me
• Open Mind x Heart
• Accept Us Across All Parallel Universes / Realities
• I Want It That Way (Trigger Happy)
• Extreme Love and Desire
Reflection to Hypothetical Questions After Each Date
After Date 1
Do you feel strong enough chemistry to be curious and interested in getting to know your match more?
After Date 2
Do you feel a strong enough connection to look beyond their façade?
After Date 3
Do you feel more love than friendship and feel ready to look into your own wounds and release triggers?
After Date 4
Do you feel ready to continue releasing and relieving wounds so you can receive love and see love more clearly?
After Date 5
Do you feel in love with your match, and able to give love, grow, and be the best version of yourself together?
Message my meetup inbox or
Email denimadoniasho@gmail.com
Call/text: 419-487-3413
Upcoming events
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- $49.00
Free/$49.00 Straight Mixer for couples and singles
Union Square, East 17th Street between 4th and 5th Aves,, New York, NY, US-Concept for mixer and 5 Practice Dates is on meetup group page
-Details for Mixer & 5 Practice Dates is on meetup event page ( see below )-Free/$49.00 USD Straight Mixer for couples and singles
So usually I arrive at the event location alone, it's just me chilling and drinking soft drinks.
It feel lonely but I am there to enjoy the vibe.
Please don't expect me to do the welcoming, I expect adult to act like adult and talk to people, it's " Free "Couples or singles can come and experience the 5 practice date designed by me, it's $49.00 USD per person
There is no cash refund.
The optional live matchmaking and practice dating experience is $49.00 US dollar per person.
That is if you both agree to experience this.For couple it's going to help you get closer and understand love more.
For single it's going make you become the best version of yourself so you would have more opportunities in the dating market.As for matchmaking, it's included in the $49.00 usd per person package deal.
That is if you see two or more people you have chemistry with and would like me to pair for you.Event Date & Logistics
Date: May 30, 2026
Time: 9:14 PM
Location: Near Union Square, Chipotle, 117 E 14th St***This is a self-driven social environment. I do not facilitate individual introductions or manage interactions. Guests are expected to initiate and navigate conversations on their own.
What to expect for $49.00 USD per person
• Do 5 Practice Dates below.
• Each round has a structured theme to support connection (e.g. curiosity, values, attraction, emotional safety).Safety Disclaimer
All events take place in public spaces such as cafés, food courts, malls, and other well-trafficked locations to ensure a safe and comfortable experience for everyoneThe 7 Practice Dates
• Do You See Me - 1
• Open Mind x Heart - 2
• Accept Us Across All Parallel Universe - 3
• I Want It That Way (Trigger Happy) - 4
• Extreme Love and Desire - 5Date 1 – Be a mysterious, emotionally available human.
Focus on presence, curiosity, and connection.
Let people experience who you are beyond labels (yes, even your job title).
Avoid status-driven questions like “What do you do?” or “Where do you live?” — relax, LinkedIn can wait.Date 2 – Become LinkedIn in human form.
Perform status. Interrogate value. Rank and categorize.
What do your parents do? What do you do for work?
Do you own or rent—or are you “figuring it out”?
Assess them like an asset, a résumé, a potential merger.
Are they a smart investment… or a liability?
Play royalty seeking alliance—calculate, compare, judge.
Be polished. Be strategic. Be just a little unbearable.
Warning: Do not ask or reveal exact income—we are not filing taxes together (yet).
You may talk about household financial responsibilities (how you manage expenses, split costs, or approach money in daily life).
Notice how ridiculous this feels.Date 3 – Plot twist: you’re both just humans.
Be honest about your experience so far.
Take off the entitlement mask (alpha/tough or beta/nice—yes, both are costumes).
Show vulnerability, sincerity, and authenticity.
Remember: you are equals—no thrones, no rankings.
Talk about your deepest fears (fun!) regarding this connection, your future, or your goals.
Reflect on your love patterns—your “type,” your habits, your emotional chaos.Date 4 – Release your inner gremlin (lovingly).
Express your shadow self fully—or just be completely yourself, unfiltered, while doing the light dating challenge.
Say the thing. (Maybe not every thought… but close.)
Create space to talk things through and actually resolve something like adults.
Ask:
• How have I frustrated you?
• How have I annoyed you?Practice patience when navigating conflict (yes, even when you’re right… or think you are).
Date 5 – Final boss level.
Experience separation… or oneness.
Do you choose the path of love… or the path of fear?
No pressure. Just your entire relational pattern on the line.Reflection Questions After Each Date
After Date 1
Do you feel strong enough chemistry to be curious and interested in getting to know your match more?After Date 2
Do you feel a strong enough connection to look beyond their façade?After Date 3
Do you feel more love than friendship and feel ready to look into your own wounds and release triggers?After Date 4
Do you feel ready to continue releasing and relieving wounds so you can receive love and see love more clearly?After Date 5
Do you feel in love with your match, and able to give love, grow, and be the best version of yourself together?Path A: Experience-Focused / Live-in-the-Moment
For singles who prefer to follow a natural flow and enjoy connection as it unfolds — with ease, fun, and presence. No pressure to go deep. Come as you are, enjoy the energy, and follow what feels good to you.You prioritize:
• Comfort
• Authentic vibes (not the same as "being authentic")
• Living in the moment
• Letting things unfold organicallyPath B: Growth-Oriented / Intention-Driven
For singles who enjoy exploring deeper emotional connection, vulnerability, and conscious love. These challenges allow one to learn love, see love, and to give and receive love.You value:
• Personal growth/ Being authentic
• Emotional openness
• Expanding your capacity to love and receive love
• Going beyond comfort zones when it feels rightRecommendation
• Path A: Focus on Practice Dates 1–2 for connection, ease, and chemistry exploration.• Path B: Explore all 5 Practice Dates if you're excited about deeper connection and relational growth.
Contact me via:
Text / Call: 419-487-3413
Email: denimadoniasho@gmail.com
Meetup inbox27 attendees - $49.00
Free/$49.00 Gay Mixer for singles and couples
HK Hells Kitchen, 523 9th Ave New York, NY 10018, New York, NY, US-Concept for mixer and 5 Practice Dates is on meetup group page
-Details for Mixer & 5 Practice Dates is on meetup event page ( see below )-Free/$49.00 USD Gay Mixer for singles or couples
So usually I arrive at the event location alone, it's just me chilling and drinking soft drinks.
It feel lonely but I am there to enjoy the vibe.
Please don't expect me to do the welcoming, I expect adult to act like adult and talk to people, it's " Free "Couples or singles can come and experience the 5 practice date designed by me, it's $49.00 USD per person
There is no cash refund.
The optional live matchmaking and practice dating experience is $49.00 US dollar per person.
That is if you both agree to experience this.For couple it's going to help you get closer and understand love more.
For single it's going make you become the best version of yourself so you would have more opportunities in the dating market.As for matchmaking, it's included in the $49.00 usd per person package deal.
That is if you see two or more people you have chemistry with and would like me to pair for you.Event Date & Logistics
Date: May 30, 2026
Time: 9:14 PM
Location: 859 9th avenue***This is a self-driven social environment. I do not facilitate individual introductions or manage interactions. Guests are expected to initiate and navigate conversations on their own.
What to expect for $49.00 USD per person
• Do 5 Practice Dates below.
• Each round has a structured theme to support connection (e.g. curiosity, values, attraction, emotional safety)Safety Disclaimer
All events take place in public spaces such as cafés, food courts, malls, and other well-trafficked locations to ensure a safe and comfortable experience for everyoneThe 5 Practice Dates
• Do You See Me - 1
• Open Mind x Heart - 2
• Accept Us Across All Parallel Universe - 3
• I Want It That Way (Trigger Happy) - 4
• Extreme Love and Desire - 5Date 1 – Be a mysterious, emotionally available human.
Focus on presence, curiosity, and connection.
Let people experience who you are beyond labels (yes, even your job title).
Avoid status-driven questions like “What do you do?” or “Where do you live?” — relax, LinkedIn can wait.Date 2 – Become LinkedIn in human form.
Perform status. Interrogate value. Rank and categorize.
What do your parents do? What do you do for work?
Do you own or rent—or are you “figuring it out”?
Assess them like an asset, a résumé, a potential merger.
Are they a smart investment… or a liability?
Play royalty seeking alliance—calculate, compare, judge.
Be polished. Be strategic. Be just a little unbearable.
Warning: Do not ask or reveal exact income—we are not filing taxes together (yet).
You may talk about household financial responsibilities (how you manage expenses, split costs, or approach money in daily life).
Notice how ridiculous this feels.Date 3 – Plot twist: you’re both just humans.
Be honest about your experience so far.
Take off the entitlement mask (alpha/tough or beta/nice—yes, both are costumes).
Show vulnerability, sincerity, and authenticity.
Remember: you are equals—no thrones, no rankings.
Talk about your deepest fears (fun!) regarding this connection, your future, or your goals.
Reflect on your love patterns—your “type,” your habits, your emotional chaos.Date 4 – Release your inner gremlin (lovingly).
Express your shadow self fully—or just be completely yourself, unfiltered, while doing the light dating challenge.
Say the thing. (Maybe not every thought… but close.)
Create space to talk things through and actually resolve something like adults.
Ask:
• How have I frustrated you?
• How have I annoyed you?Practice patience when navigating conflict (yes, even when you’re right… or think you are).
Date 5 – Final boss level.
Experience separation… or oneness.
Do you choose the path of love… or the path of fear?
No pressure. Just your entire relational pattern on the line.Reflection Questions After Each Date
After Date 1
Do you feel strong enough chemistry to be curious and interested in getting to know your match more?After Date 2
Do you feel a strong enough connection to look beyond their façade?After Date 3
Do you feel more love than friendship and feel ready to look into your own wounds and release triggers?After Date 4
Do you feel ready to continue releasing and relieving wounds so you can receive love and see love more clearly?After Date 5
Do you feel in love with your match, and able to give love, grow, and be the best version of yourself together?Path A: Experience-Focused / Live-in-the-Moment
For singles who prefer to follow a natural flow and enjoy connection as it unfolds — with ease, fun, and presence. No pressure to go deep. Come as you are, enjoy the energy, and follow what feels good to you.You prioritize:
• Comfort
• Authentic vibes (not the same as "being authentic")
• Living in the moment
• Letting things unfold organicallyPath B: Growth-Oriented / Intention-Driven
For singles who enjoy exploring deeper emotional connection, vulnerability, and conscious love. These challenges allow one to learn love, see love, and to give and receive love.You value:
• Personal growth/ Being authentic
• Emotional openness
• Expanding your capacity to love and receive love
• Going beyond comfort zones when it feels rightRecommendation
• Path A: Focus on Practice Dates 1–2 for connection, ease, and chemistry exploration.• Path B: Explore all 5 Practice Dates if you're excited about deeper connection and relational growth.
Contact me via:
Text / Call: 419-487-3413
Email: denimadoniasho@gmail.com
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